The old mthca code simply locked send_cq and then recv_cq, which in
this case could lead to an AB-BA deadlock if QP_a and QP_b were
destroyed simultaneously.
We can fix this by changing the locking code to lock the CQ with the
lower CQ number first, which will create a consistent lock ordering.
Also, the second CQ is locked with spin_lock_nested() to tell lockdep
that we know what we're doing with the lock nesting.